Betha abafileyo ephupheni
Ukubetha umntu ofileyo ephupheni kuthathwa njengenye yemibono ephethe iinkcazo ezininzi kunye nokuchazwa. Nabani na obona ukubetha umntu ofileyo ephupheni kunokuthetha ukujonga iimeko zentsapho yalowo ufileyo kwaye afune ukubonelela uncedo kubo, kwaye oku kunokuba sisilumkiso kumphuphi ukuba ahlale kude nezono kwaye enze izono. Eli phupha lingabonakalisa umnqweno womntu wokufumana impumelelo nokoyisa ubunzima kunye nemingeni. Ukubetha umntu ofileyo ephupheni kunokufanekisela utshintsho olukhulu kubomi bomntu kunye notshintsho ahamba nalo.
Ukubona umntu ofileyo ebethwa kusenokubonisa ukuba loo mntu ucaphukile yaye ufuna ukuziphindezela kuye. Ukuba umntu uzibona ebetha uyise ongasekhoyo, oku kusenokuthetha ukuba kukho umdla okanye ingenelo eya kuza kuye kwixesha elizayo. Ngoko ke, lo mbono kufuneka utolikwe ngokomxholo wobomi bomntu ngamnye.
Iingcali zokutolika iphupha zikholelwa ukuba ukubetha umntu ofileyo ephupheni akugqalwa njengobungqina bobubi, kodwa kunokuba bubungqina bokulunga kunye nezenzo ezilungileyo umntu azenzayo kumntu ofileyo, njengokunika uthando oluqhubekayo okanye ukumthandazela. Ukubetha abafileyo kusenokufuzisela intliziyo enobubele nenyulu ethwalwa ngumntu ombonileyo ephupheni, nomnqweno wakhe wokunceda abantu nokubanqwenelela okuhle.
Ukubetha abafileyo ephupheni ngu-Ibn Sirin
Phakathi kwabaphengululi bama-Arabhu abaseka inzululwazi yokutolika amaphupha, umtoliki u-Ibn Sirin uthathwa njengoyena ubalaseleyo nodumileyo. U-Ibn Sirin ubonisa ekuchazeni kwakhe ukuba ukubona umntu ofileyo ebethelwa ephupheni kuthetha ukuba umphuphi unyamekela intsapho yomntu oshonile, kwaye oku kuthathwa njengobungqina benceba yomphuphi kunye nenkxalabo kubathandekayo bakhe abafileyo.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba umntu ubona ephupheni ukuba ubetha umntu ofileyo kumntu ophilayo, oku kungabonisa ubukho bokungavumelani kunye neengxaki ezininzi ebomini bakhe. Eli phupha lingaphinda lifanekisele ukwanda kweenkxalabo kunye neentlungu kunye nobukho babantu abaninzi abonakele kunye nenzondo kwintlalontle yomphuphi.
U-Ibn Shaheen ukholelwa ukuba umphuphi obetha umntu ofileyo ngesandla sakhe unokubonisa ukuba usebenze ngokuhambelana nomvuzo womntu ofileyo okanye ukuba umntu ophilayo uye wamnyamekela. Kodwa simele sihlale sikhumbula ukuba uThixo ngoyena unolwazi ngentsingiselo yamaphupha nokutyhilwa kwawo.
Ngokuphathelele ukuchazwa kwephupha lokubulala abafileyo, abafileyo ababetha abaphilayo ephupheni banokubonisa ukuba umbonisi uya kuba nethuba lokuhamba eliya kuzisa ulonwabo ebomini bakhe kwaye libe negalelo ekuphakamiseni umgangatho wakhe wentlalo kwixesha elizayo.
Iphupha malunga nomntu ofileyo obetha umntu ophilayo libonisa ukuxhalaba kunye nokudideka ngexesha elifanayo, njengoko umphuphi ecinga iintsingiselo ezimbi ezilandela eli phupha. Kodwa inyaniso kukuba eli phupha lineentsingiselo ezintle kakhulu kunye nokulunga okukhulu. Umntu ofileyo ubetha umntu ophilayo ephupheni ubonisa inhlanhla kunye nempumelelo eya kuphunyezwa ngumphuphi, oya kumenza agxininise ingqalelo yomntu wonke.
Ukususela kumbono ka-Imam Ibn Sirin, ukubona ukubetha komntu ofileyo ephupheni kubonisa ukulunga kunye nenzuzo yokuba oku kubetha kuya kuvelisa umntu obethelweyo. Ukuba umntu ubona ephupheni lakhe ukuba umntu umbethe, oku kubonisa intliziyo enobubele necocekileyo entliziyweni yomphuphi, njengoko ethanda ukunceda abanye abantu abamngqongileyo kwaye ubanqwenelela okuhle.
Ukubetha abafileyo ephupheni kubafazi abangatshatanga
Kumfazi ongatshatanga, ukubona umntu ofileyo ebethwa ephupheni kusenokubonisa ukuba uneempawu ezintle yaye unemilinganiselo ephakamileyo yokuziphatha, yaye kwixesha elizayo elingekude uya kufumana izenzo ezilungileyo nokuphila ngentabalala. Eli phupha linokuba bubungqina bokuba uya kuba nobomi obuzinzile kunye nempumelelo kwiinkalo zayo ezahlukeneyo, nokuba kusemsebenzini okanye kubudlelwane bomntu.
Kumfazi ongatshatanga, iphupha lokubetha umntu ofileyo ephupheni linokufanekisela ukuba uya kunandipha amandla kunqulo lwakhe kunye nokukwazi ukujamelana neengxaki zokomoya nezokuziphatha. Uyakwazi ukumelana nobunzima kwaye aphumelele kwiinkalo zakhe ezahlukeneyo ngenxa yokholo lwakhe olunzulu kunye nokuqina kwimilinganiselo yonqulo kunye nemigaqo.
Imibono kufuneka itolikwe ngokusekelwe kumxholo wabo kunye nemeko yomphuphi. Ezinye iziganeko kunye neenkcukacha ephupheni zinokuba nempembelelo ebalulekileyo kwintsingiselo yalo kunye nentsingiselo yokugqibela. Ukongezelela, ukuchazwa kwemibono kufuneka kuhlale kusenziwa ngononophelo kunye nokunyamekela, kwaye kulungele ukubonisana neengcali ekutolikeni kwephupha ukufumana inkcazo echanekileyo kunye nebanzi.
Ukubetha abafileyo ephupheni kumfazi otshatileyo
Kumfazi otshatileyo, ukubona umntu ofileyo ebethelwa ephupheni uthembisa ukuhlonela nobulungisa, kwaye oku kubonisa isimo esilungileyo somphuphi. Eli phupha linokuba ngumfuziselo wotshintsho olukhulu okanye utshintsho ebomini bakhe. Eli phupha linokubonakalisa umnqweno wakhe wokoyisa ubunzima kunye nemiceli mngeni kunye nokuphumelela. Ukuba umfazi otshatileyo ubona ephupheni umntu ofileyo ebetha umntu ophilayo, oku kungabonakalisa ukungavumelani kunye neengxaki ezininzi ebomini bakhe. Basenokuba baninzi abantu abonakeleyo nabanentiyo ebomini bakhe, nto leyo eyandisa amaxhala neentsizi zakhe. Isenokubonisa umnqweno wokukhupha aba bantu bangalunganga ebomini bakhe.
Ukuba umfazi otshatileyo ubona ephupheni umntu ofileyo ezama ukumbetha kwaye uzama ukumphepha kwaye uyamthukuthelela, oku kungabonakalisa ukuba umphuphi unokwenza iimpazamo okanye izenzo ezimbi ezinokuchaphazela kakubi ubomi bakhe. Ngoxa ebona ephupheni ukuba umntu ofileyo uyambetha okanye ubetha omnye umntu ophilayo, oku kusenokubonisa ukonakala kunqulo lwakhe. Le ngcaciso isenokubalaseliswa kubukho bomntu ofileyo kwindawo efanelekileyo yokuhlala nokungamkeli naluphi na uqheliselo olubi.
Ngomfazi otshatileyo, iphupha malunga nabantu abafileyo abazibethayo ebomini lingaba sisilumkiso sengozi yomzimba okanye utshintsho olusondeleyo ebomini bakhe. Lo mqondiso unokuba ngumqondiso wokungazinzi kuthando lwakhe okanye ubomi bentsapho. Eli phupha linokuba sisilumkiso kumfazi otshatileyo ukuba ahlale elumkile kwaye ajongane nobunzima anokuthi ajamelane nabo ngendlela eyakhayo kwaye agcine uzinzo kunye nolonwabo lwakhe.
Ngokutsho kuka-Ibn Sirin ekuchazeni kwakhe, kubonakala ukuba ukubona umntu ofileyo ebetha umntu ophilayo ephupheni kubonisa ukuba umphuphi unentliziyo enhle necocekileyo, njengoko ethanda ukunceda abanye abamngqongileyo kwaye ufuna ukubabona baphumelele. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuba umntu ubona ephupheni lakhe ukuba umntu uyambetha, oku kunokutolikwa ukuba uya kuzuza inzuzo kunye nokulunga kulo mntu umbethayo.
Ukubetha abafileyo ephupheni kumfazi okhulelweyo
Xa umfazi okhulelweyo ephupha ukuba ubethwa ngumntu ofileyo ephupheni, eli phupha liphethe iintsingiselo ezininzi. Iphupha lingabonisa ukuba umfazi okhulelweyo ufuna uncedo kunye nenkxaso evela kwabo basondeleyo ebomini bakhe. Kusenokubakho iingxaki okanye imiceli mngeni ojongene nayo ofuna inkxaso noncedo ukuze uyoyise.
Ukuba umfazi okhulelweyo ubona ephupheni ukuba umntu ofileyo uyambetha, oku kunokuba sisilumkiso kuye malunga nesidingo sokuphinda ahlolisise ubomi bakhe kwaye alungise iimpazamo ezithile ezinokubangela ukulahlekelwa kwakhe. Iphupha linokuba sisikhumbuzo kuye ngokubaluleka kokuthatha uxanduva kunye nokwenza izigqibo ezifanelekileyo.
Iphupha lingabonisa kwakhona ukuba kukho imithwalo yezempilo ngexesha lenkqubo yokuzalwa. Kusenokubakho ubunzima okanye imiceli mngeni yempilo ochanabeke kuyo, kwaye ke ngoko kufuneka uthathe amanyathelo okhuseleko ayimfuneko kwaye ufune indawo yokusabela kuThixo uSomandla kwezo ngxaki.
Umfazi okhulelweyo kufuneka asebenzise lo mbono njengesilumkiso kunye nenyathelo lokuphucula ubomi bakhe kunye nokunyamekela impilo yakhe kunye nokhuseleko lokuzala. Kufuneka afune inkxaso kunye neengcebiso kwabo basondeleyo kuye kwaye bamqinisekise ukuba uthatha amanyathelo afanelekileyo ukuphepha iingxaki kunye nokufezekisa amava okuzalwa akhuselekileyo kwaye aphilileyo.
Ukubetha abafileyo ephupheni kumfazi oqhawule umtshato
Ukubetha umntu ofileyo ephupheni kumfazi oqhawule umtshato unokuba nentsingiselo eyahlukileyo. Ngokutsho kuka-Ibn Sirin, eli phupha linokuba sisilumkiso kumfazi oqhawule umtshato ukuba wenze iimpazamo ezithile. Umntu ofileyo obetha umfazi oqhawule umtshato usenokubonisa ukuba ufuna ukuxolelwa yaye uyazishiya izono. Ukuba ibhinqa eliqhawule umtshato lizibona libetha umntu ofileyo ephupheni, oku kunokufuzisela inzaliseko nokuzaliseka koko akunqwenelayo nanethemba kuThixo. Ukuba ibhinqa eliqhawule umtshato lizibona libethwa ngumntu ongasekhoyo, oku kusenokubonisa ukuba uThixo uya kulinika oko likunqwenelayo nalithembayo. Ukubetha umntu ofileyo ephupheni kusenokuthetha ukuba umfazi oqhawule umtshato uzama ukuphepha isalelo esalelweyo yaye ufuna ukusondela kuThixo. Umntu ophilayo obetha umntu ofileyo ephupheni unokubonisa ulonwabo lomfazi oqhawule umtshato kunye nokuphucula imeko yakhe ebomini. Umntu ofileyo obetha umntu ophilayo ephupheni ugqalwa njengesikhumbuzo somnqophiso, idinga, okanye umyalelo, yaye umntu ofileyo obetha umntu ophilayo ngentonga usenokubonisa ukungathobeli nemfuneko yokuguquka. Ukuba umfazi oqhawule umtshato ubona umntu osondeleyo kuye embetha ngoxa efile ngokwenene, oku kusenokuba yimbonakaliso yobunyulu nokuziphatha okuhle akunandiphayo. Iphupha malunga nomntu ofileyo obetha umntu ophilayo ngesandla sakhe lingabonakalisa utshintsho olukhulu ebomini kunye nomnqweno wokunqoba ubunzima kunye nokuphumelela. Eli phupha lingabonisa kwakhona ubukho bobudlelwane okanye ubudlelwane phakathi komphuphi kunye nomntu ofileyo. Ukuba ubona umntu angamazi ngokwenene ephupheni, oku kungabonisa ukubaluleka kwesikhundla sakhe kunye nefuthe kubomi bomphuphi.
Ukubetha umntu ofileyo ephupheni
Kwindoda, iphupha lokubetha umntu ofileyo ephupheni libonisa umbono oneentsingiselo ezininzi. Eli phupha lingabonisa ingqalelo kunye nokunyamekela ukuba umphuphi ufumana kumalungu entsapho yakhe. Kwakhona kunokufuzisela inkxalabo yendoda ngeemeko zabantwana bayo nomlinganiselo wokwahlukana kwayo nabo. Ukuba umntu uzibona ebetha umntu ofileyo entloko ephupheni, oku kubonisa ukuphela kwexesha elinzima ahamba nalo kunye nokuphumelela ngempumelelo kwemiqobo.
Ukubetha umntu ofileyo ephupheni kunokuthetha ukuba umphuphi wenza ezininzi izikreqo kunye nezono. Eli phupha liza kulumkisa umphuphi kwaye ummeme ukuba aphephe ezi ziphatha zibi kunye nezenzo.
Kuyafaneleka ukuba uqaphele ukuba ukuba umphuphi ubona umntu ofileyo ephupheni, ejika ubuso bakhe kuye kwaye efuna ukumbetha, oku kungabonakalisa ukuba umphuphi uvakalelwa ngumsindo kulo mntu kwaye ufuna ukumohlwaya. Oku kubonisa ukungafuni ukunxibelelana okanye ukusondela kulo mntu, kwaye unokulumkisa umphuphi ukuba angenza iimpazamo ezifanayo ebomini bakhe bemihla ngemihla.
Ukuphupha ngomntu ofileyo ebetha umntu ephupheni kubonisa izenzo ezimbi okanye izono ezenziwa ngumphuphi okanye uya kuzenza kwixesha elizayo. Umphuphi kufuneka asebenzise eli phupha njengesilumkiso sokuphepha izenzo ezimbi kwaye azibophelele ekuziphatheni okulungileyo. Umntu ophuphayo kusenokufuneka akhangele iindlela zokukhula ngokobuqu aze afumane ulwaneliseko lwangaphakathi.
Ndiphuphe ndibetha utata wam owaswelekayo
Ukutolikwa kwephupha malunga nokubetha utata ofileyo kunokuba neentsingiselo ezininzi ngokutsho kwabaphengululi bephupha lokutolika. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukubetha uyise ofileyo ephupheni kuhambelana nezono okanye izenzo ezimbi ezenziwa ngumntu ophuphayo. Eli phupha linokuba sisilumkiso kumntu ukuba aphephe ezi ndlela zokuziphatha ezimbi kwaye azame ukulungisa ukuziphatha kwakhe.
Xa intombazana engatshatanga ibona uyise ofileyo embetha ephupheni, oku kusenokuba sisilumkiso kuye ukuba wenza izinto eziphosakeleyo nezimbi eziya kubangela iingxaki neempazamo ezininzi kwixesha elizayo. Umntu ufanele acinge ngokulungisa indlela aziphatha ngayo aze aziphephe izenzo ezingafanelekanga ezinokuchaphazela yena nobomi bakhe.
Ukubetha uyise ofileyo ephupheni kunokuba yimbonakaliso yobubele kunye nentliziyo ecocekileyo yomphuphi, njengoko ethanda ukunceda abanye kwaye ubanqwenelela okuhle. Eli phupha lingabonisa ukuba umntu ubambe imilinganiselo ephakamileyo yabantu kwaye uzibophelele ekuziphatheni nasekuncedeni kangangoko anako.
Abanye abantu baphupha ngokubetha umama oshonile, kwaye kule meko, iphupha lihambelana nokuzinza kunye nokuthuthuzela kwengqondo. Eli phupha lingafuzisela ukunyamalala kweenkxalabo kunye nokukhupha iingxaki kunye nosizi. Umntu usenokuziva ekhululekile yaye eqinisekile xa ephupha ebetha umama wakhe ofileyo, yaye oku kubonisa imvakalelo yokuzinza anayo kubomi bakhe bobugcisa nobungokweemvakalelo.
Ndiphuphe ndibetha umntakwethu ofileyo
Iphupha lakho lokubetha umntakwenu oswelekileyo lisenokubonisa iimvakalelo ezilahlekileyo, usizi kunye neentlungu osenokuba uye wazifumana ngenxa yokulahlekelwa kwakhe. Iphupha lisenokubonakalisa umsindo ongasombululekiyo okanye iimvakalelo zokuzisola ngezinto ongazange wazenza esaphila, eli phupha alifanelanga lisetyenziswe ekuzicingeni okanye ukuhlala kwizono ezidlulileyo. Kunoko, kunokuba luncedo ukujonga iphupha njengethuba lokucamngca nokuxolela. Zama ukucinga ngobudlelwane obunabo ebomini kwaye uzixolele ukuba uyazisola.
- Isenokubonisa imfuneko yokubonakalisa umsindo okanye ukucaphuka kwakho kuye ngokuphupha ngento ongakhange ube nayo ithuba lokuyichaza ubomi bakhe bonke.
- Iphupha lisenokuba ngumfuziselo wokuxolelana okanye ukuzama ukunxibelelana nomzalwana wakho kwihlabathi lamaphupha apho aphinda abonakale kuwe.
- Isenokuba yimbonakaliso yokukhumbula umntakwenu yaye ufuna ithuba lokuthandana naye okanye ucele uxolo ngento ethile.
Ukutolikwa kwephupha malunga nokubetha abafileyo abaphilayo ngentonga
Ukuchazwa kwephupha malunga nomntu ophilayo obetha umntu ofileyo ngentonga kunokubonakalisa iintsingiselo ezahlukeneyo. Eli phupha lingabonisa ukuxhalaba kunye nokudideka, njengoko umntu ophupha eli phupha ecinga ukutolika okungalunganga kulandela oku kubonwayo. Nangona kunjalo, sifumanisa ukuba eli phupha lineentsingiselo ezilungileyo kakhulu kunye nokulunga okukhulu.
Ngokutsho kwenkcazo ka-Ibn Sirin, ukubona umntu ofileyo ebetha umntu ophilayo ephupheni kubonisa ukuba umntu ophuphayo unentliziyo enhle kwaye ecocekileyo, kuba uyakuthanda ukunceda abo bajikelezileyo kwaye unqwenela ukulunga kunye nenkqubela phambili kuwo wonke umntu. Ngamanye amazwi, eli phupha lingafuzisela ukuba umntu unomnqweno onamandla wokuphucula imeko yentlalo kunye neyomoya yabanye.
Eli phupha lingabonisa ubukho bobundlobongela kunye nokuphazamiseka kuluntu. Kunokubakho iingxabano kunye neengxaki phakathi kwabantu kunye nokusasazeka kosulelo olubi kwindawo engqongileyo. Eli phupha linokuba sisilumkiso malunga nokubandakanyeka ekuziphatheni okubi kunye nokwenzakala kwabo kuwe nakwabanye.
Ukuchazwa kwephupha kunye nombono wabaphengululi bakholelwa ukuba ukubetha umntu ofileyo ephupheni kunokubonisa ukuba umphuphi wenza inani lezono kunye nezikreqo. Iphupha lisenokufika lilumkise kwaye limlumkise ngezi zenzo zimbi. Kubalulekile ukuba umphuphi athathele ingqalelo eli phupha njengethuba lokuguquka nokutshintsha kube ngcono.
Iphupha lokubetha umntu ofileyo ngentonga ephupheni linokutolikwa njengokuthwala iintsingiselo ezintle ezinjengokulunga kunye nenzuzo efunyanwa ngumntu obethwayo. Isenokubonisa ukuba ufumene inzuzo okanye ufezekise injongo yakhe ngenxa yolo qhankqalazo. Isenokubonisa imfuno yomntu yotshintsho kunye nokuziphuhlisa, njengoko iphupha limkhuthaza ukuba akhule kwaye aphuhlise ngamava obomi.
Iphupha lomntu ophilayo ebetha umntu ofileyo ngentonga lineentsingiselo ezahlukahlukeneyo, kuquka ukuxhalaba, ukudideka, ukulunga, nokukhula komntu. Liphupha elifuna ukucinga nokucamngca ngeempawu zobuntu kunye neendlela zokuziphatha zobomi ukufezekisa iziphumo ezilungileyo kwixesha elizayo.
Ukutolikwa kwephupha malunga nokubetha abafileyo ngeembumbulu
Ukuchazwa kwephupha malunga nomntu ofileyo odutyulwayo kuyahluka ngokwengqondo kunye nenkcubeko. Phantsi kwengcaciso kaFreud, ukuphupha udutyulwa ufile luphawu lomsindo ongasonjululwanga nongquzulwano olusengqondweni olunokuba ngumthombo wenkxalabo kubomi bemihla ngemihla. Ukuba ubona intombazana ibetha umntu ofileyo ephupheni, kunokubonisa ukuba unokuziphatha okuphakamileyo kwaye unokholo kwaye kungekudala uya kunandipha ulonwabo kunye nokuphila okuninzi.
Ukubetha umntu ofileyo ngeembumbulu ephupheni kusenokuba luphawu lokuba umntu ophuphayo ngaye ujongene nengxaki enzima okanye ingxaki enokuhlala ixesha elide. Ukubetha kusenokuba yimbonakaliso yomsindo noxinezeleko umntu analo ngemeko ajamelene nayo. Ngamanye amaxesha, iphupha lomntu ophilayo obetha umntu ofileyo ephupheni libonisa amazwi ahlabayo kunye nabuhlungu awenzayo umntu ebomini bakhe bemihla ngemihla.
Iphupha malunga nomntu ofileyo odutyulwe ngeembumbulu lingabonisa amandla omntu ekuphembeleleni umphefumlo womntu ofileyo ngokuzalisa izenzo zothando okanye unqulo olunikezelwe kumntu ofileyo, okanye lunokubonisa ukuba umntu uthandazela okanye uthandazela umntu ofileyo.
Kwakhona kunokwenzeka ukuba ukuchazwa kwephupha malunga nomntu ofileyo obetha umntu ophilayo ngesandla sakhe luphawu lweenguqu ezinkulu kubomi bomntu okanye utshintsho olunokuthi lwenzeke kungekudala. Eli phupha libonisa umnqweno womntu wokufumana impumelelo kunye nokoyisa ubunzima bobomi.
Ukutolikwa kwephupha malunga nokubetha abafileyo abaphilayo ngemela
Ukuchazwa kwephupha malunga nomntu ophilayo obetha umntu ofileyo ngommese uphethe intsingiselo eqinile kwaye ephikisanayo ngexesha elifanayo. Iphupha lingabonakalisa ubukho bomsindo ongasonjululwanga okanye ukukhungatheka ngaphakathi komphuphi kumntu othile. Kusenokubakho ukungquzulana ngokweemvakalelo okanye ubutshaba phakathi komphuphi nalo mntu, yaye oku kubonakala ephupheni ngokubona umntu ophilayo ebetha umntu ofileyo ngemela.
Iphupha lingabonakalisa ukuxhalaba kunye nokudideka ukuba umphuphi uvakalelwa ngemiphumo emibi enokuthi yenzeke emva kweli phupha. Nangona kunjalo, kuvela ukuba eli phupha lineentsingiselo ezilungileyo kunye nokulunga okukhulu.
Ngokutsho kwengcaciso ka-Ibn Sirin, ukubona umntu ophilayo ebetha umntu ofileyo ephupheni kubonisa ukuba umphuphi unentliziyo enhle necocekileyo. Uyakuthanda ukunceda abanye kwaye unethemba lokuzuza okulungileyo ngakumbi. Xa umntu ophilayo ebetha umntu ofileyo ephupheni, oku kufanekisela ukwamkela kukaThixo izenzo ezilungileyo ezinikelwa ngumphuphi.
Ukuba umphuphi uzibona ebetha phambi kwabantu, oku kunokuba luphawu lokwenza izikreqo kunye nezono ezininzi. Ukubona umntu ofileyo ebethwa ephupheni kuza njengesilumkiso kulowo uphuphayo ukuba aphephe ezi ndlela zokuziphatha ezimbi.
Iingcali zokutolika amaphupha ziphinda zikhankanye ukuba ukubona umntu ophilayo ebetha umntu ofileyo ephupheni kunokuba luphawu lwesikhundla esikhethekileyo somntu ofileyo kubomi basemva kokufa ngenxa yezenzo zakhe ezilungileyo kunye noncedo lwakhe kubantu ngexesha lobomi bakhe.
Ukuchazwa kokubona umntu ofileyo ebetha umntu ophilayo ngemela ephupheni kunokufanekisela ukunqotshwa komphuphi kunye nokunqoba kwiintshaba zomphuphi. Kwakhona iphupha lisenokubonisa ukuba umphuphi wenza izono ezininzi yaye akabambelele kwiimfundiso zonqulo.
Ukutolikwa kwephupha malunga nokubetha ugogo ofileyo kumzukulu wakhe
Ukuchazwa kwephupha malunga nogogo ofileyo ebetha umzukulu wakhe unokuba neengcamango ezininzi. Eli phupha lisenokubonisa ukuba umzukulwana wayefuna ukuphiliswa ngokweemvakalelo nokukhuselwa kwixesha elidluleyo. Isenokubonisa ukuqumbela kukamakhulu kumzukulwana ngenxa yesimilo sakhe esilihlazo esingamkholisiyo.
Iphupha malunga nogogo ofileyo ebetha umzukulu wakhe unokuba luphawu lokufika kolonwabo kwintsapho ngeli xesha. Ukubona ugogo etshata ephupheni kunokubonisa ubuninzi bokutya kunye nokuphila.
Ukuphupha ukubona ugogo wakho ongasekhoyo ephethe unyana kunokubonisa intlonipho yomphuphi kunye nokuxabisa umkhulu wakhe ongasekhoyo. Lo mbono unokuzisa izinto ezintle neziyingenelo kumzukulwana ebomini bakhe.
Olunye utoliko lubonisa ukuba ugogo ubetha umzukulu wakhe ephupheni kunokuba yinto efanelekileyo yolonwabo kumntu ophuphayo. Ukubona ugogo ongasekhoyo ethandaza ephupheni kunokubonisa imfuneko yomthandazo kunye nothando kuye ngelo xesha.
Umakhulu ofileyo ebetha umzukulwana wakhe ephupheni ubonisa izibonelelo kunye neenzuzo ezinokufumaneka kumphuphi kwixesha elizayo elingekude. Olo ncedo lusenokubonakala ngokwemali, ngokweemvakalelo, okanye ngokomoya.
Umyeni ofileyo wabetha umfazi wakhe ephupheni
Iphupha malunga nendoda efileyo ebetha umfazi wayo ithathwa njengesimboli esithwala iintsingiselo ezahlukeneyo ekutolikeni kwephupha. Ngokutsho kuka-Imam Ibn Sirin, indoda ebhubhileyo ebetha umfazi wayo ephupheni isenokuba luphawu lwesiphene ekunquleni nasekuthobeleni umyeni, yaye oko kusenokubonisa ukuba umfazi ukhululekile kwiinkathazo neengxaki emva kokuhamba komyeni. Abanye banokukholelwa ukuba ukubonakala kweenyembezi ezikhanyayo ephupheni kufanekisela uphawu oluhle kunye nobudlelwane obuhle phakathi kwabatshatileyo, njengoko iinyembezi zivame ukubonisa iimvakalelo zokwenene kunye neemvakalelo ezinyanisekileyo. Indoda ebetha umfazi wakhe oshonile ephupheni ingabonisa ukuba kukho ukwesaba okanye imingeni ejongene nomphuphi ebomini bakhe bemihla ngemihla. Eli phupha linokubonakalisa iimvakalelo zokuziphindezela okanye umsindo ngaphakathi komphuphi kumyeni oswelekileyo, okanye kuye ngokwakhe.
