Ukulila ephupheni
Ngokutsho kweenkcazo zika-Ibn Sirin, xa ukukhala kubonakala emaphupheni ngaphandle kokukhala okanye ukulila, oku kuthathwa njengophawu oluhle olubikezela ukukhululeka, ulonwabo kunye nokunyamalala kweenkxalabo.
La maphupha abonwa njengophawu lokunciphisa ubunzima, kunye nokubonakaliswa kokuzaliseka kweminqweno okanye ukuphila ubomi obude kumntu obona iphupha, nje ukuba ukukhala kukhululekile ekukhaleni.
Kwelinye icala, ukuba ukukhala kubonakala kukhatshwa kukukhwaza okanye isijwili ephupheni, oku kuchazwa njengophawu lokutyhubela amaxesha azaliswe lusizi nentlungu.
Nabani na ozibona efunda iKur’an ephupheni ngelixa elila, okanye ekhumbula izikreqo zakhe ekhala ngazo, oku kubonisa ukunyaniseka kokuzisola kwakhe nokuguquka kwakhe, kwaye kugqalwa njengophawu lokusondela koncedo novuyo.
Ukukhala ephupheni kwakhona ibhuloho yokuvakalisa uxinzelelo lwengqondo kunye neemvakalelo ukuba umphuphi ubandezeleka ngokwenene, njengoko ukukhala okukhulu ephupheni kubonisa ukukhululwa kwezi mvakalelo kwaye ngoko kuluphawu lokukhululeka kunye nokunyamalala koxinzelelo.
Ukutolikwa kokukhala ephupheni ngokutsho kwe-Al-Nabulsi
Umphengululi waseNabulsi unikeza ukuchazwa okucacileyo nokuqondakalayo kwamaphupha, kwaye phakathi kwaloo maphupha intombazana izibona ikhala ephupheni.
Iintsingiselo zokulila emaphupheni ethu ziyahluka ngokusekelwe kwiinkcukacha zephupha.
Ukuba intombazana izibona ilila ngokuvakalayo nangokusuka entliziyweni, oku kusenokubonisa ukuba iya kuba lusizi ngenxa yento ayixabisa kakhulu.
Ngokuchasene noko, ukuba ukukhala kwakhe ephupheni kubangelwa kukuthobeka kunye neemvakalelo ngelixa efunda iKur’an, ngoko ke olu luphawu oluhle oluvakalisa ukunyamalala kwentlungu nosizi, kwaye lubonisa ukufika kovuyo nokuqinisekiswa kwentliziyo yakhe.
Ukuba intombazana ibonakala ilila kwaye inxibe iimpahla ezimnyama, oku kusenokuba yimbonakaliso yeemvakalelo zayo zosizi kunye nobunzima.
Ukuba ukukhala ephupheni kwakungekho lizwi okanye ukulila okukhulu, oku kuthathwa njengophawu oluvuyisayo olubonisa ukuba kuya kuba neendaba ezimnandi kunye neziganeko ezivuyisayo eziza kuza ebomini bentombazana kungekudala.
Ukukhala ephupheni kumfazi otshatileyo
Xa ibhinqa elitshatileyo liphupha ukuba liphalaza iinyembezi, oku kunokuba luphawu oluhle oluxela kwangaphambili utshintsho oluvuyisayo kunye nokuphumelela okuza kubomi bakhe nakwikhaya.
Lo mbono usenokuthetha ukususa amatyala, ukuphucula iimeko ezinzima, okanye ukuba bubungqina bempumelelo ekukhuliseni abantwana kakuhle.
Ukongezelela, la maphupha angavakalisa ukulunga kunye neentsikelelo eziza kubomi bomtshato, ngakumbi ukuba kukho ukuxinana kunye neengxaki phakathi kwabatshatileyo, njengoko bathembisa ukubuya kozinzo noxolo Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuba ukukhala ephupheni ehamba kunye nokukhala kunye nokulila, iphupha linokuthi lithwale iintsingiselo ezingafanelekanga, njengokuba kunokwenzeka ukuhlukana okanye ukujongana nentlupheko kunye neengxaki zentsapho.
Kwesinye imeko, ukuba ibhinqa libona ephupheni likhala iinyembezi ezithe cwaka, oku kunokufanekisela iindaba ezivuyisayo ezinxulumene nokukhulelwa kunye nokuzalwa komntwana kwixesha elizayo.
Kwakhona, ukuba ubona ukuba omnye wabantwana bakhe ugula kakhulu ephupheni kwaye uyakhala kuye, eli phupha lingabonakalisa ukulindela okulungileyo malunga nokugqwesa komntwana kunye nempumelelo yekamva, ngakumbi kwinqanaba lezemfundo.
Ukutolikwa kwephupha malunga nomfazi ongatshatanga ekhala ephupheni
Kwintombazana engatshatanga, ukukhala ephupheni kunokuba ngumqondiso othembisayo wokuba iminqweno yakhe enkulu, eyayicinga ukuba kuya kuba nzima ukuyifeza, iza kuzaliseka.
Ukuba unethemba lokutshata nomntu othile, ukukhala kwakhe ephupheni kusenokubonisa ukuba kungekudala, uThixo ethanda ukutshata nalo mntu.
Ukukhala kukwabonisa ithuba lokuba afumane umsebenzi, elinyathelo elibalulekileyo lokufezekisa amaphupha namabhongo akhe awafunayo kubo bonke ubomi bakhe.
Ukuba kukho ukungaboni ngasonye nomphathi wakhe emsebenzini okanye nendoda awayeza kutshata nayo, aze azibone esehla iinyembezi ephupheni, oku kungabonisa ukuba isiphelo sezi ngxaki sisemnyango, uThixo evuma.
Ukuba ubona enye intombazana ikhala ephupheni layo, oku kunokuba ngumqondiso wokulunga kuloo mntu.
Kwintombazana ewulibazisayo ukutshata ize ibone ephupheni ukuba iyakhala, oku kunokwazisa umtshato wayo kumntu ozinikeleyo, oya kuhlala naye ngolonwabo, uThixo ethanda.
Kwimeko yokukhala ngomntu ofileyo ephupheni, oku kuchazwa njengophawu lwempumelelo kunye nobomi obugcwele ulonwabo kwixesha elizayo kunye nomyeni okanye isoka.
Ukutolikwa kwephupha malunga nokukhalela umfazi okhulelweyo
Kuyathakazelisa ukuba amaphupha abonwa ngabasetyhini abakhulelweyo banokuthwala intsingiselo enzulu kunye neentsingiselo, ngakumbi ukuba la maphupha aquka imiboniso yokulila.
Ngokubanzi, la maphupha abonwa njengemiqondiso elungileyo kunye neempawu zekamva elithembisayo kumama kunye nosana lwakhe olungekazalwa, kunye nemiqondiso enokwenzeka malunga nekhosi yokukhulelwa kunye nenkqubela phambili yenkqubo yokuzalwa.
Kwiimeko apho umfazi okhulelweyo ezifumanisa ekhala kakhulu ephupheni ngaphandle kokukhathazeka okucacileyo okanye ukudinwa, oku kuthathwa njengophawu oluhle olubonisa ukuzalwa okulula kunye nempilo entle kusana olusanda kuzalwa.
Nangona kunjalo, kukho ezinye iimeko apho amaphupha abonisa umfazi okhulelweyo ekhala ngokutshisa okukhulu kunye neentlungu, nokuba ngamava abuhlungu okanye ngenxa yokungabikho kokusesikweni kumntu ongaziwayo. okanye nokuba umhla wokuzalwa usondele.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuba ukukhala ephupheni kuhamba kunye nokukhala kunye nokulila, oku kungabonisa imingeni umfazi okhulelweyo anokujongana nayo ngexesha lokubeletha, njengoko kunokubonisa ukwesaba kwakhe okunzulu kunye nokukhathazeka malunga nokhuseleko lomntwana wakhe.
Ukutolikwa kokubona ukukhala ephupheni kumfazi oqhawule umtshato
Kumfazi oqhawule umtshato ozibona ekhala ephupheni, eli phupha libhekwa njengophawu oluhle olubonisa ukuba unqobe isigaba esinzima ebomini bakhe kwaye wangena kwixesha lokuthuthuzela kunye nokuzinza ahlala enqwenela.
Iphupha lakhe likwabonisa ukuzuza ubulungisa malunga namalungelo afunyanwa ngumyeni wakhe wangaphambili.
Kumfazi oqhawule umtshato, ukukhala ephupheni kubonisa ukuba kunokwenzeka ukutshata kwakhona kumntu oya kumhlawulela oko adlule kukho ngaphambili.
Ukukhala emaphupheni kuqinisekisa ukuba uyakwazi ukuzalisekisa iminqweno yakhe kwindawo engenalusizi.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ukukhala ephupheni kuhamba kunye nesandi esikhulu, kubonisa imeko yokuxhalaba kunye nosizi olunokuthi okwangoku lugqithise ubomi bakhe.
Nangona kunjalo, kukho into ebonisa ukuba eli nqanaba linzima kwaye uya kuloyisa ngoncedo lukaThixo oluzayo.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuba ukukhala ephupheni kubangelwa iimvakalelo zovuyo, ke ezi ziindaba ezilungileyo ezikulindele kwixesha elizayo.
Ukutolikwa kokubona ukukhala ephupheni kumntu kunye nentsingiselo yalo
Xa ukukhala kubonakala ephupheni lomntu, oku kungabonisa ukuqala okutsha kunye nokuthembisayo kwishishini.
Le mibono inokuxela kwangaphambili ixesha elizayo eligcwele iiprojekthi eziyimpumelelo nezinengeniso eziza kuzisa ubutyebi.
Ukuba umntu ophuphayo uthwele ityala, ngoko ukuzibona ekhala ephupheni unokuthembisa iindaba ezilungileyo ukuba uya kulahla le mithwalo yemali kwaye eve iindaba eziya kumvuyisa.
Iinyembezi emaphupheni zisenokubonisa ukupheliswa kweengxabano nokungavisisani kwentsapho, njengoko zifuzisela isiqalo senqanaba elitsha lolonwabo nemvisiswano yentsapho.
Kubafundi, umbono wokulila unokuba luphawu lwempumelelo kwizifundo nakwixesha elizayo, njengoko ubhengeza impumelelo yokugqwesa ezifundweni ezikhokelela ekufumaneni amathuba emisebenzi eyonelisayo anegalelo ekuphuculeni imeko yabo yezemali.
Kumntu ozibona ekhala ngovuyo ephupheni lakhe, oku kunokuthathwa njengophawu lwentsikelelo kunye nokuphila okusemthethweni, kunye nokubonakaliswa kokuzaliseka kweminqweno awayeyinqwenela kakhulu.
Lo mbono usebenza njengesiqinisekiso sokuba ithemba kunye nolindelo olwakhayo ebomini lunokuzaliseka ngokwenene.
Ukhala kakhulu ephupheni
Abanye abatoliki bakholelwa ukuba ukukhala ephupheni kunokubonakalisa iimvakalelo ezinkulu zokukhathazeka kunye nosizi.
Ngokomzekelo, ukuba umntu ubona ephupheni lakhe ukuba iqela labantu likhala kakhulu, oku kungabonisa iinkxwaleko okanye imingeni ejongene noluntu lonke okanye ukungena kwiingxabano.
Ukubona umntwana ekhala kakhulu kunokubonisa ukuba umphuphi ufumana amava anzima.
Kwakhona, ukulila okukhatshwa sisijwili kusenokuthetha ukulahlekelwa zizinto ezintle okanye iintsikelelo, ngoxa ukukhala ngokuzolileyo ngaphandle kwesandi kubonisa izicombululo zeengxaki.
Kweminye imibono, ukukhala ngokunzulu nokukhala ephupheni kusenokubonisa ukuba loo mntu usengxakini enkulu.
Nabani na ophuphayo ukuba ulila ukufa komlawuli okanye umntu obalulekileyo, oku kungabonisa ukungabi nabulungisa okuhlobene neli nani.
Ukulila ngenxa yokufa komntu ephupheni kusenokubonisa ukuba lusizi kwabo baphilayo ngenxa yabafileyo.
Ukubona umntu ofileyo ekhala kuthetha ukukhalinyelwa okanye ukungcikivwa kulowo uphuphayo.
Ukutolikwa kwephupha lokukhala ngokukrakra ngaphandle kweenyembezi
Iingcali zokutolika kwephupha zibonisa ukuba ukuphupha ngokukhala okukhulu ngaphandle kokukhala kubonisa ukuwela ebunzimeni kunye nobunzima.
Olu hlobo lwephupha lunokubonakalisa imvakalelo yokuphelelwa umoya kunye nokujongana nemingeni enzima.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuba umntu uphupha ukuba iinyembezi zakhe ziwela ngaphandle kokukhala, oku kuthetha ukuphumeza into ayifunayo.
Ukuba ubona ukuba igazi liphuma endaweni yeenyembezi ngexesha lokukhala okukhulu, oku kufanekisela ukuzisola ngento ephelile kunye nokubuyela kwindlela efanelekileyo.
Nabani na obona ephupheni amehlo akhe egcwele iinyembezi, kodwa ngaphandle kokuwa kwezi nyembezi, oku kubonisa ukufumana imali ngendlela esemthethweni.
Ngelixa ukukhala kakhulu ngelixa uzama ukubamba iinyembezi kubonisa ukuvezwa kokungekho sikweni kunye nokungekho sikweni.
Iphupha elimalunga nokukhala kakhulu ngaphandle kokuwa iinyembezi kwiliso lasekhohlo livakalisa usizi ngemibandela ephathelele ubomi basemva kokufa, ngoxa iphupha elinye, kodwa ngokweliso lasekunene, livakalisa usizi ngemibandela yeli hlabathi.
Ukutolikwa kwephupha elikhala ngokukrakra ngenxa yokungabi nabulungisa
- Ekutolikweni kwephupha, iinyembezi ngenxa yokufumana ukungabi nabulungisa ngumqondiso onamandla ophethe iintsingiselo ezininzi.
- Ukulila ngokugqithiseleyo kudla ngokubonwa njengesalathiso sobunzima bezinto eziphathekayo njengentswelo nokulahlekelwa zizinto eziphathekayo.
- Lo mbono usenokubonisa imvakalelo yokungcatshwa nokudandatheka.
- Xa umntu ezibona entywizisa iinyembezi ngenxa yokungabikho kokusesikweni phambi kwabanye ephupheni, oku kusenokuba yimbonakaliso yobukho begunya elingekho sikweni elibalawulayo.
- Kukho inkolelo ethi umntu ojamelene nokungekho sikweni aze akhale kabuhlungu aze ayeke ukukhala ephupheni, usenokuphinda afumane amalungelo akhe ebebiwe okanye afumane ityala awayelityala abanye.
- Ngokuphathelele ukukhala okubangelwa ukungabi nabulungisa kwezihlobo ephupheni, bubungqina bokulahlekelwa lifa okanye ubutyebi.
- Kukholelwa ukuba umntu ozibona ekhala kakhulu ngenxa yempatho engekho sikweni yomntu omaziyo unokwenzakaliswa ngulo mlinganiswa.
- Kumntu ophuphayo ekhala ngenxa yokungabikho kokusesikweni komphathi wakhe emsebenzini, oku kusenokubonisa ukuba uya kuphelelwa ngumsebenzi okanye anyanzeleke ukuba asebenze engahlawulwa.
- Kwimeko efanayo, ukuphupha ulila ngenxa yokungekho sikweni kukabawo kubonisa imvakalelo yomsindo yabazali.
- Nabani na ophupha ekhala kakhulu ngenxa yentswela-bulungisa ngelixa eyinkedama, oku kubonisa ukuhluthwa kwamalungelo akhe kunye nokulahlekelwa yimpahla yakhe.
- Ngokuphathelele iphupha lebanjwa elikhala kakhulu ngenxa yokungekho sikweni, lisenokubonisa ukuba ukufa kwalo kusondela, kodwa olona lwazi lukhulu luhleli kuThixo.
Ukubona umntu ophilayo ekhala kakhulu ephupheni
U-Ibn Shaheen ubonisa ukuba ukubona ukukhala okukhulu ephupheni, ingakumbi ukuba kungenxa yomntu othandekayo ngoxa esaphila ngokwenene, ngokuqhelekileyo kubonisa imvakalelo yokwahlukana okanye ikhefu kunxibelelwano phakathi kwabathandekayo.
Lo mbono unokuvakalisa intlungu yokubona lo mntu kwiimeko ezinzima nezikrakra.
Ukukhala okunzulu komnye wabazalwana ephupheni kusenokubonisa umnqweno womphuphi wokolula isandla sokunceda umzalwana ukuze aphume kubunzima obuthile.
Kwelinye icala, ukukhalela umntu ongamaziyo ephupheni kusenokuba sisilumkiso sokungcatshwa okanye ukuqhathwa ngulo mntu.
Nangona ukukhala okukhulu ngokuhlukana komntu othandekayo osele ephila kubonisa ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba ulahlekelwe isikhundla okanye ukulahlekelwa kwintsimi yomsebenzi okanye urhwebo.
Ukukhala ngesihlobo esisondeleyo ephupheni kukwajongwa njengophawu lokuhlukana okanye ukungavisisani okungakhokelela ekuqhekekeni kobudlelwane bentsapho.
Ukubona umntu ekhala ngosizi olunzulu ngomhlobo ophilayo ephupheni kubonisa isilumkiso sokuwela kumgibe wokungcatsha okanye ukuxhaphazwa ngabahlobo.
Ukutolikwa kwephupha malunga nokukhala kwimoto
Ukuba umntu unemoto kwaye ubona iphupha malunga nokukhala kule moto, oku kunokutolikwa ngeendlela ezininzi.
Ngokomzekelo, ukuba isikhalo sibangelwa kukubiwa kwemoto, loo nto isenokubonisa ukuba loo mntu uchatshazelwa ziingxaki zezoqoqosho nezentlalo ezimngqongileyo.
Ngokuphathelele ukukhala ngemoto ngaphandle komxholo othile, kunokubonisa uloyiko malunga nekamva, ukuziva ungakhuselekanga, kunye nemvakalelo yokulahlekelwa okukhulu okunokumlimaza kakhulu umntu.
Ukutolikwa kwephupha elikhalela phezu kwabafileyo
Ukubona ukukhala phezu komntu ofileyo, ehamba kunye nokulila nokukhala ephupheni, kubonisa ukuba kukho isiteji esigcwele ukudabuka kunye nentlungu ebomini bomphuphi.
Lo mbono unokubonakalisa amava anzima umntu atyhubela kuwo, ukusuka ekubhekaneni namashwa kunye neentlekele, ukuphulukana nabantu abasondeleyo, ukwanda kwezikhalazo kunye noxinzelelo lwengqondo, kunye nefuthe elibi kwimeko yemali ngenxa yamatyala okanye ezinye iingxaki zemali.
Kwakhona lo mbono uneentsingiselo zokomoya, njengoko usenokubonisa imfuneko yokukhumbula abafileyo ngokukhunga, ngobubele, nangokufuna ukuxolelwa.
Kule meko, umbono uba luhlobo lomyalezo obiza izenzo ezilungileyo egameni lomntu oswelekileyo.
Xa umntu ezibona ekhalela umntu amaziyo ophilayo ngokwenene, umbono unokuba ngumqondiso wethemba, njengoko unokufuzisela ubomi obude kuloo mntu, okanye ukufika kweentsikelelo ezintsha kunye nokutya ebomini bakhe, ukongezelela eqinisekisa ukomelela kobudlelwane obusondeleyo phakathi komphuphi nomntu.Owakubona ephupheni lakhe.
Ukukhala phezu kwabafileyo ephupheni, ngakumbi ukuba umntu ofileyo ngumntu owaziwayo kumphuphi, unokuthwala iimpawu ezintle ezifana nokubonelela ngokulungileyo kunye nokuphila kwaye unokubonisa ukulangazelela kunye nokukhumbula umntu ofileyo.
Ukulila ngenxa yomntu
Ekuchazeni kwakhe ukubona ukukhala emaphupheni, u-Ibn Sirin uchaza ukutolika okuninzi kuxhomekeke kumxholo wephupha.
Ukukhala phezu komntu ophilayo kubonisa uphawu oluhle, njengoko lufanekisela ubomi obude bomphuphi, ukuchithwa kweenkxalabo, kunye nesithembiso sezinto ezilungileyo ezizayo.
Kwelinye icala, ukuba isikhalo sikhatshwa sisikhalo nesijwili, ngoko ke iphupha liba nenye intsingiselo, ebonisa intlungu enzulu nosizi olugqithiseleyo ngenxa yoko akuhlelayo loo mntu simkhalelayo.
Ngaphezu koko, ukukhala ngomntu ongaziwayo ephupheni kubonisa ukuba umphuphi uya kujongana nobunzima kunye neengxaki ezinokuza kuye.
Ngoxa ukukhalela ukufa komntu osaphila kuneentsingiselo ezahlukahlukeneyo ukususela kusizi olunzulu, ukufa, ukuxhalaba, okanye ukuzisola okunxulumene nomntu ochaphazelekayo ephupheni.
Ukuphupha ulilela umntu omthandayo...
Kwabasetyhini kunye namadoda
Amaphupha apho umntu azibona ekhalela omnye umntu amthandayo abonisa iimvakalelo ezinzulu nezinamandla ezidibanisayo.
Ezi mvakalelo zinokubonisa umnqweno wokwandisa ubudlelwane kunye nokomeleza amaqhina othando kunye nokuxhasana.
Ukukhala ephupheni kunokuba luphawu lwempumelelo ezayo enokusombulula imiqobo yangaphambili kunye nokungavisisani, kwaye ivakalise ukuphucuka kunye nokuchuma kobudlelwane.
Kumfazi otshatileyo, ukukhala ephupheni kumntu othandekayo, njengomyeni okanye unyana wakhe, kunokubonisa ukufezekisa ukuzinza kunye nolonwabo kwintsapho yakhe.
Ukuba ulilela unyana ongasekhoyo, oku kunokutolikwa njengeendaba ezimnandi nendlela yokuziphilisa eza kuyo.
Ukuba ukulila kwakhe kukhatshwa sisandi esikhulu, oku kusenokubonisa ukuba ujamelene nocelomngeni olukhulu ebomini bakhe.
Ukuba ukhalela umyeni wakhe ephupheni, oku kusenokuthetha ukuba uya kuba luncedo kuye ekoyiseni ubunzima anokujamelana nabo.
Kwindoda ezibona ilila ngamandla ngenxa yothile amthandayo ephupheni, oku kusenokubonakalisa uxinzelelo olungokwengqondo ehlangabezana nalo ngenxa yomgama okanye ukuphulukana nomhlobo.
Ukukhala ngomfazi omthandayo ephupheni kunokubonisa amandla eemvakalelo zakhe kuye kwaye kunokubonisa ukuphuhliswa kobudlelwane babo emtshatweni.
Ngokuphathelele ukukhalela ingxaki ejamelene nomhlobo osenyongweni, kusenokuba sisilumkiso nxamnye nokubandakanyeka kwimibandela okanye kwimisebenzi ngaphandle kwesilumkiso esifanelekileyo nokucinga.
Kwakhona, ukukhala kwendoda ngenxa yokufa komntu emaziyo kusenokuxela kwangaphambili ngokungena komntu omtsha okanye ukuqala kolwalamano olutsha ebomini bayo, ngokhokelo olunenyameko nenyameko ekuthembekeni.
