Funda kabanzi malunga nentsingiselo yokukopela umyeni wakho ephupheni ngokutsho kuka-Ibn Sirin

Intsingiselo yokungcatsha Umyeni ephupheni

1. Zama ukukhumbula iimvakalelo obuba nazo ngela phupha.
   Ubunomsindo okanye ulusizi? Oku kunokuba yinto ebalulekileyo ekutolikeni kwephupha.
2. Iphupha malunga nokukopela komyeni wakho lingabonakalisa iimvakalelo zakho zokungakhuseleki okanye ukungathembeki kubudlelwane bakho bangoku.
   Zama ukuhlalutya ubudlelwane bakho kunye neqabane lakho kwaye ucinge ngazo naziphi na iingxaki ezinokubonakala.
3.  Iphupha lisenokuba neempawu okanye izikhombisi ezinokukunceda uqonde intsingiselo yalo nzulu.
   Ngokomzekelo, mhlawumbi ubona iimpawu ezinxulumene nokungathembeki ephupheni ezifana nokungathembeki, umntu wesithathu, okanye umnqweno ocinezelweyo.
4. Kunokuba luncedo ukuxoxa ngephupha nomnye umntu njengomhlobo osondeleyo okanye iqabane lobomi.
   Izimvo zabanye zinokukunceda ubone izinto kumacala ahlukeneyo kwaye uziqonde ngcono.
5. Iphupha ngalinye liyinxalenye yomxholo wobomi bomntu ngamnye.
   Iphupha linokuba nento yokwenza neziganeko ezenzeka ebomini bakho okanye iimvakalelo kunye nokuphefumla kwakho imihla ngemihla.
   Zama ukuhlalutya umxholo jikelele wobomi bakho kunye nezinto ezinokuchaphazela ngokungangqalanga ingqondo yakho.

Ukutolikwa kwephupha malunga nendoda ekopela umfazi kunye nomhlobo wakhe

Eli phupha lingabonakalisa inkxalabo enzulu malunga nobudlelwane bakho bomtshato.
Kusenokubakho iimpawu zokungathembani phakathi kwakho nomfazi wakho, nto leyo ekwenza uzive unexhala nomnqweno wokusombulula iingxaki zobudlelwane.

Eli phupha linokuba luphawu lweengxaki zokwenyani ojongene nazo kubuchwephesha bakho okanye kubomi bothando.
Unokuvakalelwa kukuba kukho ukhuphiswano okanye ingozi kubudlelwane bokwenene bomtshato, kwaye oku kubangela ukuba eli phupha libonakale.

Eli phupha lingafuzisela umnqweno wakho wokuzama izinto ezintsha nezinomdla ebomini bakho.
Unokuba nomnqweno wokwandisa i-horizons yakho kwaye ujonge umhlaba omtsha, nokuba kusemsebenzini okanye kubudlelwane bomntu.

Eli phupha lingabonisa ukuba unenkxalabo malunga nobudlelwane bomfazi wakho kunye nomhlobo wakhe.
Usenokuba noluvo lokuba kukho unxibelelwano olunzulu phakathi kwabo, nto leyo ekwenza uzive uxhalabile kwaye ubhidekile malunga nobume bobu budlelwane.

Eli phupha lingabonakalisa umnqweno wakho wokufumana ukuqinisekiswa komfazi wakho kunye nokuthembela kuwe kunye nobudlelwane bomtshato ngokubanzi.
Ungaziva kukho imfuneko yokuvuselela nokuvuselela ukuthembana phakathi kwakho.

Ukutolikwa kwephupha malunga nendoda ekopela umfazi wayo ngefowuni

1. Iphupha malunga nendoda ekhohlisa umfazi ngefowuni ingabonakalisa ukungabi nathemba kunye nokungabaza kubudlelwane bomtshato.
   Eli phupha linokuba ngumphumo wamava adlulileyo okanye iimvakalelo ezinzulu zamathandabuzo malunga nezenzo zomlingane.
2.  Iphupha linokuba luloyiko lwangaphakathi lomntu kunye noloyiko lokungcatshwa liqabane lakhe.
   Eli phupha linokuba yimbonakaliso yenkxalabo yomntu malunga nokuqhubeka kobudlelwane bomtshato.
3. Iphupha malunga nendoda ekhohlisa umfazi ngefowuni ingabonisa umnqweno wokunxibelelana okungcono kunye nokuqonda kubudlelwane bomtshato.
   Iphupha linokuba luphawu lokuba umntu uziva elahlekelwe ngumdla okanye isidingo sokusondelana ngakumbi kwiqabane.
4. Iphupha elimalunga nendoda eqhatha umfazi wayo ngefowuni lisenokuba yimbonakaliso yengcinezelo yeemvakalelo neemvakalelo ezingakhiyo ezifunyanwa ngumntu.
   Eli phupha lisenokubonakalisa ukuxhalaba, umsindo, ukuphoxeka, okanye naziphi na ezinye iimvakalelo ezingentle kubudlelwane bomtshato.
5.  Iphupha malunga nendoda ekhohlisa umfazi ngefowuni ingaba yimbonakaliso yomnqweno wokufikelela ukulinganisela kubudlelwane bomtshato.
   Umntu unokuvakalelwa kukuba kukho ukungabikho kobudlelwane bakhe, kwaye iphupha lizama ukubonisa imfuneko yokulungisa ezo ntsilelo kunye nokuphucula unxibelelwano phakathi kwabatshatileyo.

Ukutolikwa kwephupha malunga nokungathembeki ngokomzimba komyeni

Iphupha malunga nokungathembeki komzimba womyeni linokuba yimbonakaliso yokungathandabuzeki kunye nokuxhalaba ukuba umfazi unokuhlangabezana nobudlelwane.
Oku kunokwenzeka ngenxa yobukho beempawu ezingacacanga okanye izikhombisi ezibonisa ukuziphatha okukrokrisayo kwicala lomyeni, nto leyo enokwenza umfazi oyike ubuqhophololo kunye nokungcatshwa.

Iphupha malunga nokungathembeki komzimba wendoda ingaba ngumnqweno ocinezelweyo wokubuyisela umdla kunye nokukhanga kubudlelwane bomtshato.
Mhlawumbi umfazi uvakalelwa kukuba ulahlekelwe ngumdla kunye ne-adventure eyayikho ekuqaleni kobudlelwane, ngoko ke lo mnqweno ubonakala kumaphupha akhe.

Uluntu lwethu lwangoku lubona ubukho obukhulu bemibono kunye nemibono malunga nokungathembeki komtshato kumajelo eendaba, idrama kunye neefilimu.
Iphupha malunga nokungathembeki ngokomzimba komyeni kunokuba ngumphumo womntu ophenjelelwa ngala mabali kunye nemifanekiso ehambelana nawo.

Iphupha malunga nokungathembeki ngokomzimba komyeni linokuba yimbonakaliso yokuzigxeka kunye nemvakalelo yokungakwazi ukwanelisa ngokufanelekileyo umyeni.
Ukuziva uphantsi kunye neemvakalelo zokungafaneleki kunokubonakala kumaphupha omntu kwaye kubonakale ngendlela yokungathembeki ngokomzimba kweqabane.

Iphupha malunga nokungathembeki komzimba wendoda ingaba ngumqondiso womnqweno ongabonakaliyo wokutshintsha ubudlelwane bomtshato.
Iphupha linokuthwala umnqweno wokuphucula unxibelelwano lomtshato okanye ukuvuselela uthando kunye nokusondelana phakathi kwamaqela amabini.

Ukutolikwa kokungcatshwa komyeni ephupheni kumfazi okhulelweyo

1. Iphupha lomyeni okhohlisayo lingabonisa ukuba kukho ukungathembeki kubudlelwane bomtshato.
   Oku kunokuba ngenxa yeziganeko ezidlulileyo okanye iimvakalelo ezingalunganga kwiqabane lakho.
   Camngca ngeemvakalelo zakho kunye neentsingiselo zazo kwaye uzame ukunxibelelana nomyeni wakho ukuze nixoxe ngezinto ezikuxhalabisayo nokuphucula ukuthembana phakathi kwenu.
2. Iphupha lomfazi okhulelweyo lokukopela umyeni wakhe linokuba ngenxa yokutshintsha kwehomoni kunye nomzimba ngexesha lokukhulelwa.
   Olu tshintsho lunokuchaphazela isimo sengqondo kwaye lumenze umfazi okhulelweyo azive exhalabile okanye ephazamisekile emoyeni.
   Khumbula ukuba amaphupha awayiyo ingqikelelo yokwenyani kwaye anokubonisa kuphela ixhala langaphakathi.
3.  Ukukopela kumyeni kunokufuzisela emaphupheni imvakalelo yokulahlekelwa okanye ukuhlukana, ngokukodwa ngexesha lokukhulelwa, oku kunokwenza umfazi atshintshe ngokomzimba nangokweemvakalelo.
   La maphupha anokubonakalisa umnqweno womfazi okhulelweyo wokugcina unxibelelwano oluqinileyo nomyeni wakhe kunye nokuqinisekisa uthando nenkxaso yakhe ngeli nqanaba libalulekileyo.
4. Iphupha malunga nowesifazane okhulelweyo okhohlisa umyeni wakhe unokubonisa ukwesaba okuhambelana nendima yakhe entsha njengomama.
   Ukukhulelwa kusenokuba kubangela ixhala lokuphulukana nothando lomyeni wakhe okanye umnqweno womyeni wakhe wokubona umzimba wakhe utshintsha.
   Qinisekisa ukuba wabelana ngezi nkxalabo kunye neqabane lakho kwaye nisebenze kunye ukunika inkxaso efanayo.

Ndiphuphe umyeni wam endiqhatha ndacela I divorce

1. Ukungathembeki komyeni neqabane lakhe kungenxa yokunganeliseki ngokwesondo.
   Iqabane linokukhangela amava amatsha okanye umnqweno wokwahluka ngokwesondo.
   Kule meko, kubalulekile ukuqonda iimfuno zeqabane kunye nokunxibelelana naye ngokucacileyo nangokuvulelekileyo ukufumana izisombululo ezifanelekileyo.
2. Umyeni usenokuliqhatha iqabane lakhe ukuba liyaxhatshazwa ngokweemvakalelo okanye lingahoywanga ngokweemvakalelo.
   Omabini amaqabane kufuneka athethathethane ngeemfuno zawo zeemvakalelo aze akhe amaqhina aqinileyo kulo lonke uhambo lomtshato.
3. Xa iingxwabangxwaba, ukungquzulana, neengxaki eziqhubekayo ziqokelelana ngaphandle kwesicombululo, ukungathembeki kuba yenye indlela yokuzikhethela iqabane.
   Ngoko ke, kuyimfuneko ukutyalomali ekusombululeni iingxaki eziqhubekayo ngokumamelana kunye nonxibelelwano olusebenzayo.
4. Umyeni usenokuba akakhulanga ngokweemvakalelo yaye akanakukwazi ukuzibophelela ngokunyanisekileyo emtshatweni.
   Kwezi meko, kusenokuba kuhle ukuba neengxoxo ezinzulu malunga nokukhula ngokweemvakalelo nokuba nokwenzeka kokukhula.
5. Ukunxibelelana nomnye umntu kunokukhokelela ekubeni iqabane liqhathe iqabane.
   Oku kunokuba ngenxa yengxoxo okanye uvelwano nomnye umntu ngaphezu kweqabane.
   Amaqabane kufuneka basebenzisane ukukhuthaza ukuthembana kunye nokuqondana phakathi kobudlelwane.
6. Emva kokungathembeki komyeni, ukuthembana phakathi kwabatshatileyo konakaliswa kakhulu.
   Umfazi umele azinyamekele aze anyange amanxeba angokweemvakalelo, yaye kwangaxeshanye, indoda ifanele isebenzele ukubuyisela intembelo yomfazi ngokuthethathethana, ngokunyaniseka nangokuzinikela ekuguquleni.
7. Xa iqabane litshintsha kwaye lingabonisi umdla okanye umnqweno wokugcina ubudlelwane, ukungathembeki kunokubonakalisa olo tshintsho.
   Kule meko, kunokufaneleka ukuphonononga izinto eziphambili zobomi obabelwanayo kunye nokuvuselelwa kothando ukuvuselela ubudlelwane.
8. Ukungaqondi kakuhle emtshatweni nokunxibelelana ngowona thunywashe ubalulekileyo onokukhokelela ekubeni indoda ingathembeki.
   Kubalulekile ukuba isibini sithetha-thethane kwaye sithetha-thethane ngokuqhubekayo ukwandisa ukuqondana kunye nokwakha ubuhlobo obusondeleyo.

Ukutolikwa kwephupha malunga nendoda ekopela umfazi kunye nodadewabo

1.  Eli phupha lingabonisa ukuba umntu uziva esongelwa okanye unomona ngobudlelwane bomfazi kunye nodadewabo.
   Kusenokubakho iimvakalelo zangaphakathi kwaba bantu anokuthi umntu abe nazo ngokwenyani.
   Lo mbono usenokuba yimbonakaliso nje yezi mvakalelo.
2.  Iphupha malunga nendoda ekhohlisa umfazi kunye nodadewabo lisenokubonisa ukuzithemba okuphantsi.
   Umntu usenokuba nengxaki yokungazithembi izakhono zakhe nokubaluleka kwakhe.
   Eli phupha linokuguqulela uloyiko lwakhe malunga nokulahlekelwa ngumfazi kunye nokuziva edangele naye.
3.  Eli phupha lingafuzisela ukunganeliseki kubudlelwane bentsapho.
   Umntu usenokuba neengxaki zentsapho okanye azive engahoywanga ngamalungu entsapho yakhe, yaye oku kubonakala xa ebona ephupheni indoda iqhatha umfazi wayo nodade wabo.
4.  Eli phupha lingabonakalisa iimvakalelo zomsindo okanye ikhwele umntu anokuthi abe nalo ngokwenene.
   Kunokubakho iziganeko okanye iimeko ezibangela ukuvakalelwa komsindo kumfazi okanye udadewabo, kwaye oku kubonakaliswa ephupheni lokungcatsha.

Ukutolikwa kokungcatshwa ephupheni

Xa eli phupha livela ephupheni lakho, lisenokuba luphawu lokuba uziva ungamthembi umntu ophila ebomini bakho.
Kusenokubakho umntu othile okanye imeko ethile ekunika amathandabuzo kunye nexhala.

Ngeli phupha, umoya wesilumkiso unokukunika umqondiso wokuba kufuneka ulumke kwaye uphaphe kubudlelwane bakho bobuqu kunye nobuchwephesha.
Kusenokubakho iimpawu ezibonisa ukuba ingozi isondela.

Ukuba iphupha lenzeka rhoqo, lisenokuba ngumqondiso wokuba unemvakalelo yangaphakathi yobuthathaka beemvakalelo okanye ukuzihlukanisa.
Usenokuziva ungakufanelekeli ukuthenjwa nokuthandwa ngabanye.

Eli phupha linokuba luphawu lokuphoxeka okuzayo okanye iziganeko ezimbi.
Kunokubakho isilumkiso ngaphakathi kweli phupha ukuba uqaphele kwaye ulungele naziphi na izinto ezimangalisayo ezimangalisayo.

Ukungcatshwa ephupheni kunokutolikwa njengento ebonisa ukuba kukho isidingo esiphuthumayo sokuphucula unxibelelwano kunye nokuqonda kubudlelwane obukhoyo phakathi kwabantu.

Ukutolikwa kwephupha lokungcatsha umyeni kunye nomkhonzazana

1. 1.  Iphupha lokukopela umyeni wakho kunye nesicakakazi sinokubonisa amathandabuzo akho kunye nekhwele kumlingane wakho wobomi.
      Eli phupha linokuba luphawu lokungazithembi kunye nokuxhalaba ozivayo malunga nobudlelwane bakho bomtshato.
      Kusenokufuneka uphinde uvavanye ukuthembana phakathi kwakho kwaye uthethe neqabane lakho ngobuhlobo kwaye ngokuphandle.
   2.  Eli phupha lingabonakalisa umnqweno wakho wokulawula iqabane lakho kwaye ugcine izinto phantsi kolawulo lwakho.
      Unokuziva ulahlekelwa kulawulo lwakho lomtshato kunye nesikhundla sakho kuyo, kwaye ngaloo ndlela udlulisele le nkxalabo yokungcatsha kunye nesicakakazi emaphupheni akho.
   3. Mhlawumbi iphupha malunga nomyeni wakho ukukopela kuwe kunye nesicakakazi libonisa umnqweno wakho wokuzama ngokwesondo kunye nenkululeko.
      Usenokuba uvakalelwa kukuba kukho inkalo enomdla ebomini bakho ekufuneka uyiphonononge.
      La maphupha anokubonisa umnqweno wakho wokubandakanya ezi zinto kubomi bakho bokwenyani.
   4. Ukuba uhlala kwindawo apho ukungathembeki kujongwa njengento engafanelekanga kwaye njengento engafanelekanga, oku kunokubangela amaphupha avuselelayo kwintelekelelo yakho.
   5. Iphupha malunga nendoda ekhohlisa isicakakazi ingaba ngenxa yesidingo sokuzamkela kunye nokhuseleko lweemvakalelo.
      Isenokubonisa ukuba ufuna ukuziva wamkelekile, uthandwa kwaye ukhathalelwe liqabane lakho langoku.

      Ukutolikwa kwephupha malunga nomyeni okhohlisa isicakakazi kunokudideka kakhulu kwaye kuphazamise.
      Eli phupha linokuphakamisa imibuzo emininzi kunye nokukhathazeka engqondweni yomntu ophuphayo.
      Kodwa ukuze ukwazi ukuyiqonda ngcono, sikunika i-5 ukutolika okunokwenzeka kweli phupha